Wednesday, March 31, 2010

An Open Letter to Jerry

I finally heard from Jerry. He dumped me in an e-mail. Ahem. This was my favorite part.

You are a truly great and inspiring person who I admire and respect deeply. I enjoy your company immensely and I've missed talking with you this past week. I'm really not a bad guy … I’m just a sensitive guy with a broken heart that is not ready to give up the woman I love (no matter how slim the chances). I hope that you can understand.


Here is my reply.

Dear Jerry,

I don't recall your mentioning this prior relationship. If you did, you certainly left out the part about you still being in love with her. This was critical information, for I was making decisions about how much of myself to reveal to and share with you during the weeks we were together. I held nothing back, and was encouraged by comments like "I think you might be really good for me." You even planned our next date; you were going to take me to Dante's, remember? I looked forward to it for two weeks.

This does explain, though, some of the "weirdness" surrounding our getting acquainted - why so much time went by between dates, why you texted sporadically and called rarely. Silly me: I thought you were just shy. Encouraged by our third date, during which you truly seemed to open up and after which we really stayed connected for a while, I thought the weirdness was past and we were on our way to something potentially great. (Note to self: in the future, flee at the first sign of weirdness.)

I don't know the circumstances surrounding your breakup, but based on what little you shared in your note, it doesn't sound hopeful for the two of you, especially considering the fact that a year has already gone by and you "rarely speak to her and doubt that you can ever have a future together." Only time will tell. In the meantime, you could have had ME. Now you have doubled your losses.

And you chose to share this with me in an E-MAIL? I *KNOW* I deserved better than that. Tacky, tacky.

I understand heartbreak all too well. I want you to know you have added to mine.

Someday, when you read my best seller, you will recognize yourself in one of its characters. And cringe.



The Writers Canvas said...


I have a bumper sticker on my car. It reads: "Careful, or you'll end up in my novel."

The fury in fiction, baby! I added in a former boss in one of my books. I tore down her life one strand at a time, leaving her where no one would come near her. It felt great.

Keep moving forward - it's all a life experience and great for fiction, gal :)


Pam said...

Elaine, one of my piano students gave me a t-shirt with that saying on the front. I love it!

Thanks for your encouragement. You are so right - it's all material! :-)


pat said...

Hmmm...Reminds me of the sound you hear when frying food in a skillet of hot oil.
I certainly wouldn't want to be the next guy who pisses you off. :)
Well said.

Pam said...

Thank you, Pat! Onomatopoeia!